So I love hearing how parent’s discipline their children because there are so many ideas and methods. Unfortunately my daughter is a stinker and quickly adapts to my new methods and decides that she no longer cares about being sent to her room, going to time out, or me taking her toys away. She has even put herself in time out, or put her toys in the garbage for me and says, “see mom, I don’t care”. 🙂 As you can see, it poses a problem for consistancy.
We keep with it though until she decides it doesn’t work for her anymore. However, we have always tried to have 1 way of negative reinforcement and 1 method of positive reinforcement at the same time. There are then two motivations to be good, not just one negative or one bribe. 🙂
We’ve tried time out, swats, time out on a stool (so she can’t get down), taking toys away, nose in the corner, good girl charts, vinegar (for extreme tantrums and situations only), going to her room, birthday jar (I will explain), and anything else we could think of.
Last month my ward put on a parenting board and we were able to share parenting tips, methods, ideas, and suggestions. It was great!
A few mothers shared the idea of putting their nose on the wall. This makes it so the childe can’t move around (like they can in a corner or on a chair) and they can’t look around. It’s boring and they hate it. We’ve tried this and it seems to be very effective! It doesn’t cause harm, and it is not comfortable. But as my daughter does, she adapted and quickly learned that if she puts her nose on the wall by a corner, she can turn her head from side to side and see around corners. So…we found a sticker that she liked and put it on the wall. Her nose must now be on the sticker. 🙂 Problem of peeping around the corner…solved. 🙂
As for our positive reinforcement. Her BIRTHDAY JAR! This was awesome! It went on for 2 months. We bought a pack of popcicle sticks and colored them. She even bedazzled some. 🙂 Every time she did something good she got to move a “birthday stick” into the jar. Once alll of the sticks were in the jar, she earned a Princess birthday party! Sometimes if she was bad, I would make her take one out. But I always had her physically move the sticks in and out. It was so effective that we are going to find a new reason to continue to use the jar.
After her birthday, now that she’s a BIG GIRL. We have created a chore chart. But not just with regular chores. These ‘chores’ include brushing teeth, saying prayers, being nice to her brother, using manners, talking in a big girl voice/no whining, cleaning up her toys, keeping her room clean, etc. I am currently working on a way to incorporate the jar thing to this. I’m thinking that if she does all of her ‘chores’ for the day, she gets to put a stick in the jar. Then maybe when she’s earned all of the sticks she gets a prize of some sort. Our chart has pictures though instead of words so she knows what she needs to do. If you want a copy of it, let me know. 🙂