When Valentine’s Day comes I always get excited and ancy…but yet we never celebrate it.
Our anniversary is 11 days after Valentine’s Day and we never have celebrated it because we look forward to our day rather than the national holiday.B But as our family has grown we have made it a day about family and showing love for each other. I love this little tradition and we never do too much, but we always have fun.
Well, to be honest, I wish we did celebrate Valentine’s day because sometimes I feel like we get jipped out of an extra special day to celebrate our marriage. So this year I came up with 5 little ways I can dress up our Valentine’s day without going overboard and making it romantic for us.
I think these ideas are great for those who don’t go all-out for the holiday but still want to make it special. So here we go…
#1 – MUSIC
Remember back in like 6th grade when you made your crush mix-tapes, or in high school when mix-cd’s where in, well whether you decide to go retro or just decide to put together a playlist, spend some time putting together a set of songs that mean something to you and your relationship from start to current. I always love music and feel more connected to my hubby when I take a stroll down memory lane with “our songs”.
I highly recommend Blank Space/Style by Louisa Wendorff featuring Devin Dawson and Love Me Like You Do by Ellie Goulding. 😉
#2 – MAKE YOUR GIFT
So you can technically kill two birds with one mix-tape but combining my first two ideas, but I love the idea of making a gift. One of my favorite ideas (that might actually happen for our anniversary) is to make a custom leather bracelet with our anniversary dates on it for him. It’s something masculine and creative. But whatever you decide to make, keep it simple. One thing I’ve learned when making gifts, sometimes more is too much. 🙂
#3 – ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
Valentine’s Day is always about telling your favorite person how you feel about them, but cards are always such an overkill. A couple of years ago for my birthday my husband secretly learned to play the guitar, and wrote me a song and then sang it to me! It was seriously the best gift I’ve ever received. I cried like a baby. haha
So before you stop by the card aisle maybe consider a gift that shows your love through one of the 5 senses, it might just make a lasting impression. (Singing cards don’t count… 🙂 )
#4 – BE SPONTANEOUS
I don’t even care if it is planned and just seems spontaneous to me, but I love it when my husband is spontaneous. It makes me feel adventurous and I really couldn’t care what we are doing, as long as we are doing it together. Being spontaneous on Valentine’s day may be challenging depending on what you are trying to do, but bust out some of those tendencies from when you were dating and bring them back.
Not sure what I mean? When my husband and I were just dating and even through the first couple of years of our marriage (basically pre-kiddo) we were pretty good at being spontaneous. We would take drives and just end up somewhere and then stay the night. We would just go to a new place in town and walk around and stop by shops and stores to look around and shop. We would put fate in control and flip coins to make our decisions for an evening and just go with it. There are lots of different ways to be spontaneous regardless of your adventure meter. 🙂
#5 – CELEBRATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP – NOT EACH OTHER
Huh? I know this sounds weird but I am a firm believer that marriage is a third entity and needs to be treated as such. It’s not just about nurturing each other, but nurturing a marriage as if it’s an individual. So this Valentine’s day, don’t just buy or do things for the other person, but do things for your relationship, celebrate your marriage.
Birthdays and Mother/Fathers day is about celebrating individuals, but Valentine’s Day and anniversaries are about celebrating the existence of two people together. So when you consider gift ideas or activities, keep your relationship in mind, not just the other person. This will make your celebration so much more enjoyable for both of you!
These are just some simple and easy ideas to keep in mind when this Valentine’s Day approaches. Good luck and have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!