2018 Word of the Year
New Years Resolutions
How many people make them, and actually keep them? Well…I don’t know the statistics, but I’m guessing the number is low. I have a problem with resolutions, they usually have to do with health/weight, money/savings, or some crazy accomplishment with a hard deadline. Don’t get me wrong, I still make resolutions, but I don’t follow the “I’m going to accomplish this by this date ____ ” format.
When I make a resolution I have a goal in mind, a change I want to see in myself or in my life for the better, and I usually have a plan of how I’m going to get there. Last year, my goals were associated with my business and my transition to finding contentment in my life. My resolutions are usually to see improvement, not to hit a certain weight mark, or put X number of dollars in savings. You never know what life is going to throw at you, and I don’t want to set myself for failure by giving myself an ultimatum-365-day-goal. I have kids… I’m lucky to get to Wednesday every week.
Word of the Year
Some people assign a new word that they focus on. This is more my type of thing. It’s open-ended, I can make it what I want, but it overall is an effort to broaden my mind and improve myself. Ironically, I did have health and weight goals for 2017, which I didn’t meet, thanks to health issues. BUT – I did grow and ironically become content with my imperfect and scared body. Am I complacent with my body and my fitness because I’m content? Heck no! But I’m content with who I am, that I am the product of my efforts, and that I don’t compare myself to others anymore. (I think this has something to do with turning 30… just sayin’ once you hit 30 you are surprisingly chill about a lot more things in life.)
Anyways, my word for 2017 was “Content”. I have a lot of things in my life that I wish were perfect and it genuinely bothers me when things don’t fall into place. I am OCD (for real) and when things are out of place, or not in order, or unorganized – I have an almost emotional reaction to them. Thanks to meds, I’m getting better at this as time passes, but that natural tendency to want to perfect every aspect of my life don’t go away. This past year, I learned a lot about being content with where I am, and understanding that it is a journey, a process, an imperfect process, and that I’m just one step along my path.
Read that again…
This past year, I learned a lot about being content with who and where I am, and understanding that life is a journey, a process, an imperfect process, and that I’m just one step along my path.
I don’t know where to begin to describe the difficulty in learning this lesson. One sentence can’t possibly translate the internal struggle that took place for me to arrive, emotionally, to where I can genuinely write that statement. And yet… here we are getting ready to discuss the word for 2018. I had a trying but incredibly blessed year last year, and I am excited for my new goals, but still very content with who and where I am.
So, what in the world will my word be for 2018? What could possibly be better than being content with who you are and where you are in life? Well, honestly, it didn’t take long for me to find my word. In 2018, we decided we were done having children and that it was time to take my own health into consideration for long-term improvements. In November, I had a hysterectomy and though, it was hell going through recovery, I am very excited for what the next chapter includes.
I spent my 20’s focused on education (my husband’s and mine), career growth, having children (4 of them), and establishing our life as a married couple. It was stressful. I didn’t spend a lot of time taking care of me, and I didn’t spend a lot of time pursuing “adventure”. Who has time for adventure? My life WAS an adventure, I was pregnant or nursing 8 years of my 20’s. Yeah, it’s scary to look at it that way. Nonetheless, “adventure” wasn’t in my vocab. (No my word for 2018 is not adventure). But I spent my 20’s living life differently than what I am now capable of in my 30’s.
This year, my word is “Fullest”. I chose this word because I feel like I have made excuses, been held back (by pregnancy and newborns – and because I allowed these reasons to limit my choices), and just couldn’t afford or flat out avoided things or experiences. My husband is definitely the more adventurous one of the two of us, but I in no part am not willing. I just don’t seek it out. This year I want to share my life to the fullest – there are so many people who need help and I have been so blessed. Sharing my blessings to the fullest with others is something I want to embrace. I want to stop letting the daily grind become the dictator of my schedule and live every day to the fullest, even if that just means at home within the walls of my home. So, for 2018, I intend to live to the fullest.
Not everyone participates in this annual goal/word setting ritutal but I see such good come from consciously setting goals to become or be better. I would love to hear your words, goals or resoltions, or even if you have a different approach. Effort is the key to all of it. I hope you have a wonderful year in 2018, and accomplish the good, and grow through the bad. Happy New Year!